Welcome Back to the MenWithFibro Forums
It does not matter the name, We all have the same symptoms.

Main Menu

ShoutBox! For quick short shout outs to other members. For introductions, questions or comments please post in the proper sections of the forum.

2023 Nov 18 19:10:11
ronr: Sorry folks but we have to move again.  Finances is the major reason and but the new hosting service is kicking back tons of errors and things just aren't work well!  I cleaned out the shoutbox just so that the changes messages will stand out better!

2023 Nov 18 19:06:32
ronr: Facebook does not allow nearly the amount of privacy and they search for people and groups thatdon't follow their guidelines.

2023 Nov 13 19:25:44
ronr: This link is an invitation for those that would like to follow us!

2023 Nov 13 19:25:04
ronr: Discord is new to most of us but there is a GREAT DEAL of privacy there.  You need to be invited to even see our page.  Download of the app is easy and there are plenty of directions

10 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

Started by WolfSoul, July 05, 2012, 02:56:10 PM

Previous topic - Next topic

0 Members and 14 Guests are viewing this topic.


10 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself
Living Better with Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
By Adrienne Dellwo, Guide


Updated March 16, 2012 Health's Disease and Condition content is reviewed by the Medical Review Board

See More About:
10 things to stop doing
living with fibromyalgia
living with chronic fatigue syndrome
<q></q>E Dygas/Getty Images

When you have a chronic illness like fibromyalgia or chronic fatigue syndrome, you've got enough working against you - you don't need to make things worse for yourself!

It's hard not to. By society's definition, something (other than illness) is "wrong" with anyone who isn't go, go, go, full speed ahead, all the time. We're expected to work long hours at stressful jobs, be amazing parents, have a perfectly clean house and keep up with the Joneses. If you can't, you must be horribly flawed!

Getting out of that mindset is difficult, but it's something that can really benefit us and help us improve. It takes work, though.

The first step is recognizing the things you do in pursuit of this idealized picture of who you're "supposed" to be. Here are 10 damaging things to watch out for:

Overdoing it. Pacing is essential for us; we'll only get worse if we do more than our bodies can handle.
Criticizing yourself. You know better than anyone that you really are sick, so give yourself a break already! When you catch yourself, try replacing the critical message with something like, "I'm doing the best I can and that's all I can do." (It sounds corny, but it works.)

Blaming yourself. It's not like you asked for a chronic, debilitating illness to come along and knock you right out of your life. No matter what some people may say, your illness is not your fault!

Believing other people's negative opinions. It's always going to hurt when someone says you're "lazy" or "crazy" or "worthless," but you can't afford to believe them. Someone who keeps going, the best they can, through adversity is stronger and more capable than most. That's what you need to remember.

Having unrealistic positive expectations. We tend to put all of our hope and faith in whatever treatment we're trying. All that does is set us up for a major disappointment when we're not suddenly cured. Approach treatments with the attitude that any improvement is a success, and remember that we generally need to use multiple treatments to truly make progress.

Having unrealistic negative expectations. On the flip side of the coin, trying treatment after treatment without success can make you feel like nothing's going to help at all, ever. That can prevent you from trying new treatments that might work, and it can also cause a reverse-placebo effect - it won't work because you expect it not to.

Putting yourself last. A lot of us are willing to put all our energy into the people around us, our jobs, our responsibilities ... only to have nothing left for ourselves. It doesn't work. If you don't take care of yourself first, you'll have less and less to give until there's nothing left - because you'll keep getting sicker. Taking care of yourself is survival, not selfishness.

Giving up too soon. When you try a new treatment or lifestyle change, it can take time for the effect to be felt. If you give up too soon, you can really miss out on long-term benefits. Give your body time to adjust to the change.

Letting stress overwhelm your life. Our lives are full of stressors, and being sick only adds to them. The problem is, stress just makes our symptoms worse. Find ways to reduce or manage your stress so it doesn't keep driving you into the ground

Asking why. We all want to know why we're sick. Is it genetics? Your diet? Vaccines? Pesticides? Infection? Some sort of punishment? Why did it strike you and not the millions of other people? This line of questioning can lead to a downward spiral of self-blame, guilty feelings and increased stress. Instead of "Why," we need to ask, "What's going on in my body?" That's the question that can uncover the causes of symptom clusters and lead to treatments.

By identifying the things you do and focusing on breaking those bad habits, you may be able to feel better emotionally and physically. If you feel overwhelmed, take one item at a time.

Added white space to make easier to read


Great advice but as with anything that sounds so simple these things are incredibly hard to do.

My advice to anyone struggling with these issues who is having no success in breaking the cycle of negative thoughts and actions - seek professional help. Do not let anyone or anything stop you from taking this step if you need to. I have said before in posts and articles that how you feel emotionally has a major impact on how you feel physically.


Good thoughts.. Now if only I could convince myself to follow them...I will try hope you all do to now to try and sleep in the land of the midnight sun.


Rest well looneylane!!  I remember midnight sun well..  travelers' sleep masks are just the trick for that!!
Where God leads, His hand always provides keep Calm and code on....



Thanks I used a sleep mask it was great! Just got back home last night recovering from my holiday today.

SMF spam blocked by CleanTalk